Proverbs
31: 10-12, 25-27, and 30 Who can find a
virtuous wife? She is more precious than
rubies. her husband can trust her, and
she will greatly enrich his life. She
brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life… She is clothed with strength and dignity, and
she laughs without fear of the future.
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with
kindness. She carefully watches
everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not
last; but a woman who fears the Lord
will be greatly praised.
Ephesians 5: 21-24 And further, submit to on another out of
reverence for Christ. For wives this
means submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives
should submit to your husbands in everything.
Scary huh? What does all that mean? Love your husband. Support him.
The wife should be the backbone, the support system. We should be ready with actions that speak
love. No harsh words, no nagging. No controlling, no demanding our own
way. The bible says that in a marriage,
the husband plays the role of Christ and the wife plays the role of the church –
well, think about that – would the church ever dream of telling Christ what he
could and could not do. We also should
not try to rule over our husbands.
Live up to the
bible’s directions, God’s directions for a wife, pray for your husband and more
than likely he will also follow the bible’s directions for a husband. Am I saying to be a doormat – no! Have respect.
Love and honor, let him be the man, the head of the house. Share your feeling and ideas and thoughts,
but in a respectful and calm way.
Discuss rather than rant.
Let’s take a good
look at that section in Proverbs 31, verses 10 to 31. Read it over, and I will highlight and give
you my personal translation of those verses here:
10
- be virtuous
11-
be trustworthy in all things big and
small
12
- do good, not harm – pray and support rather than nag and control
20
- help others
25
- trust God, be strong for him and your family
26
- be kind – no harsh words
27
- don’t be lazy
30
- fear the Lord – know the Lord, hold him in your heart, follow his directions
Be patient; don’t
fly off the handle when he screws up. He
is human, and he will screw up. Don’t
attack, process, think it through, see where discussing the issue will take you. Will it be a benefit to your marriage and
family life, or will it just make everyone feel like crap and solve
nothing? If you decide it needs
discussed, then discuss it when your tempers are not involved.
God has entrusted
us with an important job. In marriage and everything else, the bible is our
instruction manual, our guidebook, our map, and our teacher’s guide to life.
Proverbs
31: 10-12, 25-27, and 30 Who can find a
virtuous wife? She is more precious than
rubies. her husband can trust her, and
she will greatly enrich his life. She
brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life… She is clothed with strength and dignity, and
she laughs without fear of the future.
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with
kindness. She carefully watches
everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not
last; but a woman who fears the Lord
will be greatly praised.
Remember, we can’t change,
make decisions for, and control the actions of others. We CAN change, make decisions for, and
control the actions of ourselves…
A
key phrase to remember:
Will it be a benefit to your
marriage and family life, or will it just make everyone feel like crap and
solve nothing?
